Ok so we all know everyday is like a war zone when you have children wether it’s 1 child or 6, the fighting and screaming, food being found all around the house even tho you specifically told them “eat at the table please” the endless of washing, I mean come on does it ever stop.
The cleaning which is absouloutly pointless because by the time your on your second room the last one you cleaned is a bomb site and may I add I must clean my floors 3 times a day lol, and if I hear “mum where is my …….” one more time im going to lock myself away, you know what the best part my day is? Waking up just about being able to make myself look presentable for the day and only to get baby sick all down my clean clothes haha.
When i decided to have my second child i thought “yep my son would love someone to play with” thats the craziest idea I ever had, because what your really doing is making your child’s first arch nemesis. And you know what I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world, I love my crazy life we are far from a perfect family which we love.
One thing I have had to learn even when i was working that these home ideas/routines im about to list and show you is, I honestly wouldn’t be able to function properly if I didn’t stick to them especially with my eldest coping with ADHD everyday and night. I hope even some of these things can help yourselves.
Wake up early
By allowing yourself even half an hour before the children wake up it will give you enough time to grab coffee or shower.
There is nothing worse than starting your day off rushing and in a panic, not only do you over stress but it then effects the children leaving everyone in overdrive, This will allow you to have a much more productive day.
Understandably if u have infants this is much harder especially if you are a single parent but believe me if you can manage even 30 minutes before the children you will see a big difference.
Always prepare clothes for the next day, the night before
This always saves time even leave out your own clothes, accessorize etc. I know because of my son I have to add on extra time for him, he wakes at 6.30am with my baby boy and my daughter gets up at 7am. It saves fighting on the landing and over the bathroom too lol.
pre pack snacks or lunches for school/work and after school the night before
I know we all don’t want to be standing at night when the children are in bed and we finally have peace and quite. I personally pack for the week, example… on a Sunday I would make all the snacks and lunches to do until Friday.
They each have their own plastic container that holds fruit, crackers, raisens etc to do them the week. Also if you plan carefully the food you need to store in the fridge also keeps longer than you realise. I also write a meal plan each week on a Saturday to do my shopping on Sunday.
Pre plan your meals for the week, a weekly meal planner is perfect and saves money
I know some of us like to decide on the day what we want to eat which is all being well but honestly if you want an easier life and less stress with more time on your hands to spend with your children this is something you might want to consider.It gives you the chance to pick something each day that makes everyone happy, as my son is very picky on what he eats we compromise. He understands we all get to pick a day on what we want for dinner this also can be fun to plan as a family 😊
Eating together at the dinner table
This not only is nice to be sitting together as a family but it also gives you the opportunity to talk about your days, we always start with the youngest as they are less impatient but in my case my son is lol we still stick to this as it’s our rules.
We all as a family wether it’s school, appointments, activities or visitors, never give each other enough time to communicate this is a great opportunity to fit that in, It also gives us as parents the opportunity to see if our children have any problems they want to talk about and if not we let them know either me or my partner are available to talk one on one after dinner.
Giving children chores for age appropriate
We all work hard as a family and I’m a strong believer that our children need to learn responsibility from a young age. Don’t worry I do not take my children’s fun away from being a child they have plenty of time to play, attend activities and spend time with us as a family wether it’s days out or family time in our home and play dates, But I will not have my children grow up thinking they can be lazy and everything done for them, believe it or not my children respect me more for it.
This is also a reason my son is so manageable with his condition because he knows what he has to do if he didn’t that’s when my house becomes chaos.
I’m very strict when it comes to my morning and bed time routine mainly on school/work days, if I wasn’t I honestly believe I’d suffer with depression. Children need to have stability not only in routine but in every aspect of their little lives, every child is different. We also don’t all agree or parent the same and I do not and will never judge anybody for the way they do.
I like to go by Jo Frost bedtime approach “bath, book, bed” it has worked with all 3 of my children including my son. He does not go straight to sleep but does lay quietly reading by himself and to me that is more than success.
It helps my 10 month old son fall asleep by himself and settles himself without screaming fits, which if this does happen unsettles all the children.
Exercise in the morning
As mothers we spend all day on our feet running after our children and looking after our homes putting everyone else before ourselves, we start to get ourselves run down and over tired. That’s when we struggle to function and it starts to effect out relationships with our husbands/partners and children.
After dropping your children at school try and find 30 mins to do some exercises wether it’s at home because we just don’t have the money or time or at a fitness class or gym. This not only helps us to distress but also gives us the energy to face the day ahead. Yoga is a brilliant class to relieve stress or anxiety, it helps your body relax.
Find opportunity to relax
I know this is also easier said than done and believe me following these ideas does not always go to plan, but bedtime is a perfect opportunity to get the kids settled in their routine and then run yourself a bath and relax for 30 mins. This will also help you sleep well helping how you feel the next morning.
I also like to walk in the evenings when my partner can take the kids for 30-40 mins and listen to music, I don’t get this often but when I do it’s relaxing and I get to clear my head of the days events.
Set up nap time
We all know if we have a baby or a toddler they get extremely grumpy when tired, this is where nap time is so important and it gives us some quite time to do some cleaning or even just relax with cup tea and something to eat.
My son is 10 months old and he naps twice a day. After dropping the 2 eldest I come home and give my son a bottle and put him down for nap, this gives me the opportunity to exercise at home for at least 30 mins and grab a shower. We also eat lunch together, as mums we often say we don’t have time to eat, we always have time it’s planning and preparing. My son then naps after the kids are home from school giving me the opportunity to help with homworks and cook dinner if i haven’t already prepared it in the morning.
Allow a bit of chaos
We all know we can spend most of our days watching our children destroy their rooms you spent so long cleaning and organizing, or toys all over the living room, sofa cushions all over the place and food all over the floor, but it’s ok to have this chaos and let our children be children.
I know we want to teach them to be responsible and we have plenty of time to do that bit by bit as they grow. Just make sure your children know it will be them cleaning up after they are done making a mess 😊
Family time is so important to all families, we get so busy with our lives we forget what’s important and miss out on so much in our children’s lives because in reality we are not superwomen as much as we try or like to think. I know with us we set aside Sundays as our family time also in the school holidays it’s always family time which is so much fun, with days out or activities in the house. We don’t have to spend any money to have time with our children, we like to take it in turns on who picks what we do. Family time makes us so much more closer as a family and it’s something we all look forward to.
Making time for you and your partner/husband
We all don’t have family or friends we can ask to mind our children but that doesn’t mean we can’t have time with the man we love. For example if you stick to bedtime routine you will have your evenings free to do things together here is a list of just a few
● Lay blankets out on the floor with cusions, light some candles and pick a movie. Me and my partner did this the other night and it was beautiful.
● Eat dinner late, its not ideal but we do what we can. Cook together then eat at the table with candles and this gives use the opportunity to talk and communicate about any worries or problems you both have.
● Enjoy a massage night, then a lovely warm bath together to end the evening. There is nothing more romantic and close than helping each other relax and unwind. It also helps bring romance back into your relationship.
● Play bored or card games, as silly as this sounds it can be so much fun. If you need to bring a little romance back into your relationship this is great oppertunity to have the winner pick something they miss or want to do.
● Taking it in turns to participate in each other’s hobbies. I know my partner loves football sometimes I would join him in watching a big match cuddled up together with snacks. In return he would watch movies/ Tv programs I enjoy or he takes time to read the things I write and I’m passionate about.
Here are just a few things I feel strongly about, they may not work for everyone but I do believe morning and bedtime routine is the most important. It gives us as parents the strength to get on everyday and be happy and distressed as possible.
I know it may sound I don’t allow my children time to be children but I do believe me, on school days yes it’s very military but they also know once their homework is done after school and their chores they get to play. They also do not have chores on the weekends except the basics like making their beds or cleaning up the mess they have made these are things we do everyday and they need to understand I’m their mummy not their slave lol
I like to see them enjoying themselves on weekends and holidays which is why i say chaos is ok, if we were strict all the time we would have unhappy children and be taking away their childhood. I hope this can help even just a little with your home lives.